There are no absolute rules; everyone responds differently to a given situation.
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It is okay to be angry or upset.
You have done nothing to provoke this situation; it is not your fault.
You are not alone; there is support and help if you ask for it.
Things To Consider
- Think before you respond or react.
- Count to 10 if you need to calm down.
- Don't laugh at insensitive jokes against yourself or others.
- It's often effective to be calm and polite.
- Is this something to which you can safely respond or should you walk away?
- Do you know enough to respond or do you need more facts?
- It may be better to take someone aside to talk privately.
- If you aren't sure whether to do something, discuss it with other people.
- If you can't respond right away, can you do something later?
Things To Consider When Someone Has Offended You
- Let the other person speak, before you respond.
- Talk clearly and deliberately, but don't raise your voice.
- Try to express how a comment made you feel;
- Focus on the words or behavior that offended you but don't attack the person.
- Tell someone you trust about the incident (friend, parent, teacher, Rabbi.)
What To Do If You See Something Which Could Be Against The Law (Hate Crime)
- Leave all the evidence - don't remove anything (take photos if possible).
- Tell as many people as you can.
- Try to write down everything you saw or heard.
- Call the police or ask an adult to call for you.
- Call the local Anti-Defamation League or the local Jewish Community Relations Council.
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